As parents we have all had moments of quality time with our children. Whether it be a trip, a conversation, or a moment of snuggling, quality time happens. But does it happen enough? Do periodic moments of quality time make up for a lack of quantity time?
Every family is different and our thresholds for quality and quantity are likely as various as the personalities of our children themselves, but I bet that every one of us would say that we could probably do better with either one of these categories. As a homeschool mom, you may say that you spend more than enough time with your kids, while the homeschool dad may feel that he doesn't spend enough. Either way, it's a challenge.
Recently my wife had a moment of clarity regarding this topic. She noticed that quantity time leads to quality time. It became clear to her while she was driving with one of the kids. Their destination was about an hour from home and the whole way there was marked by intermittent banal conversation and silence. It was the drive home, however, when things changed and the conversation got personal and real. Had that relatively quiet drive not taken place, the more meaningful conversation would have remained forever bottled up.
Just because you offer your kids periodic moments of quality time, doesn't mean they're ready to immediately jump to revealing their innermost struggles when those moments occur. Those conversations often come to fruition as a result of patiently and continually investing in their lives. This takes time, and often lots of it.
While quality time is important, relying on it as a sole source of connection with your child is folly. Pursue quantity time and the quality will follow.